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Table 19 Problems with Partner/Dating Relationships

From: Comparison of the burden of illness for adults with ADHD across seven countries: a qualitative study

  Problems with Partner/Dating Relationships
  Approximately 64 participants reporting (59%) with 54 of these (84%) discussing tensions and challenges in partner/dating relationships
Canada I have a wonderful husband, and he’s very patient. […] He finishes all the work for me.
France [My partner] is an even bigger perfectionist than I am. He’s always got some idea or plan or scheme in his head. He’s not been diagnosed yet. I had a hard time convincing him to go to [a clinic]. He’s super-stubborn, but he’s the only person I’ve met with whom I don’t get bored. I had to find another hyper like me to better know myself.
Germany When I got married, when my life planning became more concrete the problems became more evident.
Italy I’ve been dating with my girlfriend since December. She is always on time and obsessed with punctuality, while I’m always late. After a while she has understood and realized I didn’t make it on purpose.
The Netherlands I’m very happy with my wife. […] She writes everything down and she divides the tasks that have to be done. Because if I have to do that, nothing will come of it.
United Kingdom I struggled a lot with thinking that there was something fundamentally wrong with me. […] Two years is all I can take, of anybody, and relationships seemed to break up. I was married for eight years, but the only way I was ever going to be married for eight years was because I was fooling around all the time.
United States It drives my wife crazy because she is so bottom line and things need to make sense. I come out of left field with something crazy.